Do you dream about things that seem completely out of reach? Do you struggle with body image, confidence, or patience? Do you give up easily? Do you want the negative self-talk to stop and those dreams to become reality? I don’t have a magic wand or a secret sauce, but I do want to show you how daily affirmations can truly change the way you think and the way you experience life.
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I first heard about affirmations through my husband who started practicing them two years ago. He learned about affirmations from Jack Canfield in his audiobook, Maximum Confidence. I’ll be completely honest, I thought they were stupid and I didn’t get it. BUT, as time went on, I started seeing small changes in his mindset and his confidence and realized they may not be so stupid after all.
I started to wonder if repeating something over and over again could really rewire your brain.
I have a tendency to have low lows and high highs, meaning I’m either depressed or ready to conquer the world. During one of my lows, my husband asked me to listen to Maximum Confidence on Audible. I love being a stay-at-home mom, but I recognized that I was feeling lost. I was living my life for everyone else, and I needed to find something for myself, but I couldn’t figure out what that was. I also recognized that confidence was a huge issue for me and I knew my confidence could directly affect my children and their self-image, so I was willing to be open-minded and listen.
I started listening to it in the car, while folding laundry, and on my occasional walks around the neighborhood. The book challenged me to take a hard look at my mindset. One of my biggest realizations in listening to this is that I needed to change my “glass half empty” thinking. Negativity breeds negativity and positivity breeds positivity. I needed to figure out exactly what would make me happy and make it happen!
So, I decided to try affirmations for myself!
What is an affirmation and how do I write them?
Affirmations are statements that you read over and over and over again until they penetrate into your subconscious mind. They reprogram your mind to shut the negativity out and let the positivity in. I read my affirmations aloud every morning and every night before bed, and sometimes during the day too. Affirmations should address the things you desire in life – your self-image, your career, your relationships, as well as the tangible things you want in life – a new house, a new car, or a vacation you’re dreaming about.
The more often you repeat your affirmations, the faster you will be able to rewire your brain, but remember this takes a lot of time and patience.
When writing affirmations stick to the following guidelines:
- Keep them brief, but specific.
- Start with I am.
- Use the present tense as if you have already achieved your goal.
- Use action words, emotions, and feelings.
- Keep them positive. Always affirm what you want, not what you don’t want.
These are my personal affirmations for examples:
- Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy.
- I acknowledge my own self-worth; my confidence is soaring.
- I practice persistence as I believe never giving up is the most common quality of high achievers.
- I am successfully growing my blog, connecting with other parents, and inspiring confidence, balance, and fulfillment.
- I am easily earning $xxxx/month or more in revenue through my businesses.
- I am disengaging from my phone and outside distractions to play with my kids.
- I am patiently and positively responding to my children while acknowledging their feelings.
- I am fueling my body, gaining muscle, and losing fat with clean healthy foods and daily exercise.
- I am excitedly enjoying the attractions at Disney World with my family.
- I am happily living in my 4,000-square foot home in a family-friendly neighborhood in xxx, Maine.
If you are struggling to write your affirmations you can do a quick google search or check out my list of 35 affirmations for mothers to find examples, but I encourage you to make them as personal and as specific to you as possible.
Here are some questions to ask yourself when creating your affirmations:
- What am I struggling with?
- How do I see myself and how do others see me?
- Where do I want to be in 6 months, 1 year, and 5 years?
- What kind of a parent, partner, and friend do I want to be?
- What are my biggest hopes and dreams?
Canfield suggests having between 8-15 affirmations. Keep your affirmations on your phone, next to your bed, in a journal, and on your desk. Have them with you wherever you go, and say them out loud (or to yourself if necessary) whenever you can. Once your affirmations become reality dream bigger and create new ones!
How affirmations are changing my life
First of all, I want you to know this is not easy, but it is worth it! I’ve made mistakes and rewritten my affirmations a few times. When I started I wasn’t visualizing and processing what I was saying. I was just saying it. I also got lazy and stopped saying them here and there. You must be invested in your affirmations for them to truly work. You must say them every single day, two to three times per day at the very least. You must visualize your affirmations deep down and connect with what you are saying. It takes practice, so, don’t give up! Nothing comes easily and this takes work.
Now that I am more focused and dedicated to my affirmations things are starting to change! I’ve lost ten pounds and feel stronger, more energized, and healthier because I am sticking to a routine and not giving up. I feel better connected to my children and have found the patience I need to parent successfully (mostly). I still have a ways to go, but overall I feel more confident, positive, productive and determined. In the past, I would let someone’s ignorant negative comment bother me. Now, I brush it off and feel bad for people who have so much negativity in their lives.
It would be easy for me to put this blog aside because it challenges me and scares me, but I tell myself every day that I am going to inspire people and that is just what I am determined to do. I’ve learned to stop the self-talk and negative thinking and only see the positive outcome. Who cares if someone doesn’t agree with what I say or if I make a grammatical error. More will feel inspired!
I’ve learned that mistakes and rejections are an opportunity to learn and to get better, but never a reason to give up. My husband and I are both stepping outside of our comfort zones and working to increase our income streams, so we can purchase the house we want, go on the vacations we want, and enjoy life to the fullest on our own terms. We are just getting started, but we are so excited about our future! Our motto – believe and you will succeed!
Is life perfect? Not even close. Sometimes I struggle with negative thoughts, self-doubt, and patience, but I use my affirmations to help me snap out of it and know that every day I am one step closer to reaching the life I dream about.
You too can have the life you desire. Make your personal development a priority and everything else will fall into place. I highly recommend Jack Canfield’s book, Maximum Confidence, you will learn so much more about improving your confidence, your mindset, and your life!
What are your new affirmations!? Leave a comment below.