You find out that someone has been talking about you behind your back.
They probably didn’t expect for word to get back to you about it- but it did.
This happens far too often these days, but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with.
So what do you do?
Maybe you confront the person, which leads to an argument.
Then they deny saying anything about you which leaves you in a position of accusing the person of lying. UGH!
This situation can happen at work or in your personal life, including online, and is never particularly easy to handle.
Here’s a question to ask yourself: why should you spend time worrying over what other people think about you? If you’re happy with yourself overall and who you’ve become, it doesn’t really matter what others are thinking!
Of course, if you are not happy with yourself, and you are engaging in behaviors to take it out on others, this could be the reason for their dismay towards you.
In this case, they might be justified in those thoughts.
What you should take seriously, however, is when people who care about you present constructive criticism. You should treat it as a learning experience and as a way to improve yourself. If this the situation, you may want to pay close attention to what exactly is being said about you. Use it as a way to help improve yourself, rather than just getting upset.
On the other hand, if you are content with yourself, realize that people are going to talk about you no matter what. Those same people are not just talking about you! They tend to be the gossips of the group and will talk about absolutely anyone given the opportunity. You can’t take these people seriously, and you certainly shouldn’t take it personally. You should move on from these people as quickly as possible. Try not to confront them unless they are causing you harm in some way. Most of the time, it’s best to completely ignore what they say. The problem is with them.
Your true friends will accept who you are and not try to change you. It’s why you became friends in the first place. Sometimes, they won’t appreciate certain things you do or say, but if they are good friends, they may even talk to you about it. Keep an open mind and consider what they have to say before reacting. This is not to say they are always correct. But when they are you should acknowledge it and make changes if need be. Then move on without continuing to dwell on it!
It’s never easy when you find out someone has said something behind your back or expresses dislike to something you say or do, but you cannot live your life always worrying about what “someone” will think.
You do you, be true to your values and your direction, and work on developing the confidence to just walk away when these situations occur.
Haylee Galloway can be found at Maybe Sometime Mom – https://maybesometimemom.com/