Have you ever wondered what a stay-at-home mom does all day? Or perhaps you have a preconceived notion of what a stay-at-home mom does all day. Maybe you see your friends working from home while balancing children and wonder what they do and how they do it. Perhaps you are a stay-at-home mom or a work-from-home mom just looking for someone else who can relate.
Recently, I’ve received some interesting comments regarding what people think I do all day as a “stay-at-home” mom. This is a hot topic on some of the groups I’m in on Facebook, so clearly, I’m not the only mom who receives these comments. Now, I’m not here to compare my life to anyone else’s because anyone who wears the title of MOM works their tail off, no matter what they do. I’m also not here because I want you to take pity on me. I love my crazy, busy life! I’m building the life I want and planning my future one step at a time. And this is how I’m doing it…
You see, I’m actually not a “stay-at-home” mom. I’m a “work-from-home” mom. Between play-dates, dance classes, swimming lessons, meetings, leading a Girl Scout troop, laundry, cleaning, and meal prep I run not one, but two small businesses. I run this blog, seashellsandstorytime.com, and I am an Independent Skincare Consultant with the number one skin care company in the U.S., Rodan + Fields. I have the pleasure of helping people feel more confident both inside and out, through both of my businesses. Some people don’t consider these to be “real jobs” as they consider them hobbies, and for some people they are, but for my family, they are very real jobs. I contribute a significant amount of my time to building my businesses, help provide for my family financially, and most importantly they allow me to have a purpose and identity outside of motherhood.
In reality, it would probably be a lot easier for me to work outside of the home. I could work without being interrupted a million times, I could leave my work at work, and I would be paid a set amount, never worrying about my income. But, I’ve been there, done that, and I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t happy leaving my kids with someone else for nine hours a day, rushing out of work to pick them up on time, throwing dinner on the table, and rushing through our evening routine with no quality time together. I was stressed out every time a child would get sick, or school/daycare would be closed causing me to let someone down at work. I was sad every time I missed an important event or milestone in my daughter’s life because I was at work, and while I worked for a fantastic company, I wasn’t entirely happy working on someone else’s terms.
Why I choose to be a work-from-home mom
You see, I choose to be a work-from-home mom because I want the flexibility to create my schedule. I work from home so I can be involved in my children’s lives as much as possible. I see them off to school each morning and pick them up each day. I bring them to various activities, and I spend my afternoons watching a movie (with my laptop in hand), doing puzzles or drawing pictures with my three-year-old.
My flexible schedule means I work early in the morning or late at night sometimes. It means I am one hundred percent responsible for the growth of my businesses and the income I take in. It also means stepping way outside my comfort zone, teaching myself to do something I’ve never done before, taking risks, and having faith and confidence in myself to be successful. That’s so much cooler than working for someone else!
It also means I get to connect with others through social media, develop relationships with people I’ve never had the pleasure of meeting in person, and inspire those who may share similar experiences and challenges. Being able to help people who are self-conscious about their skin, or to encourage a mom who is struggling to find time for herself, gives me a sense of accomplishment and pride, and also provides an identity outside of being “Sarah’s” Mom.
In addition to parenting, running our household, and managing my businesses, I choose to be involved at my daughter’s school because I want to see where she is when she’s not with me. I volunteer in her classroom so I can get to know her teacher and her classmates. I volunteer at the school’s parent/teacher club because I feel it’s important to interact with other parents and teachers. I enjoy the sense of community I feel by being an active and involved member of the school, and I know that our events and fundraising would not happen without parents like me who volunteer.
I choose to be a leader for my daughter’s Girl Scout troop because I want to make a difference in the lives of young girls. I want to help them grow up to be confident leaders and members of our society and perhaps someday be amazing boss moms like me!
Additionally, I am involved in our church because I want to raise my children with a strong faith and Christian role models, and a successful and welcoming church requires engaged members. Also, the hour a week I get to sit, relax and worship God is an important time for me to unwind, reflect and count my blessings.
I choose to do everything I do because I want to, not because I have to. I get to do all these things because I make my schedule. Yes, my schedule revolves around my kids and my husband, but they are my priority, and I can fit everything else in between.
Do I get overwhelmed and frustrated sometimes? Absolutely! Do I have moments when I question if I’m doing the right thing? Yup! And sometimes I have moments when I want to give up. But more often I have moments when I feel joy over the smile on my kids’ faces when I pick them up from school. I feel pride when I see them perform a dance routine or read me a book, and pure happiness when I’m able to bring them to the museum or to see a movie or show because I work hard to help provide for them. I feel nervous and excited when I share a new post on my blog and accomplished and proud when someone writes a comment to tell me how much they liked it. I feel giddy when I gain the trust of a new customer with my skincare business and elated when they write to tell me how happy they are with the results of their products. I FEEL ALL THE FEELS -tired, overwhelmed, stressed, scared, happy, excited, loved and empowered. I feel EMPOWERED to be the best version of me.
So just in case, you’re still wondering what I do all day, here’s a look at my resume…My Resume
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