Personal development guru, Jim Rohn, said: “Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” I can really appreciate this statement as I spent a number of years wrestling with the idea of contentment. We are told to be content with what we have; and while I am grateful for the many blessings I have, I can’t help but always wonder if there isn’t more?
Bloom where you are planted
Am I not a good wife, mother, Christian if I am pursuing (or dreaming about) having more? My husband works hard and provides well, I love being a mom and pouring into my children daily. But is it wrong to wonder if I can have more? I want to write a book, and leave a legacy. Therefore, I started blogging, which has been an incredible journey. But sometimes I worry that I am not a good Christian wife for not being content with all that I have.
Learning and growing through personal development is a passion of mine. I love to read books and have devoured just about everything from Jack Canfield to Darren Hardy and Stephen Covey. As a woman, I am so excited when I see books by successful women like Laura Vanderkam, Arianna Huffington, and Jen Sincero to name a few on my Kindle these days.
Have a plan for growth
How can we go about pursuing our best selves without forgetting where we come from, and remembering to be grateful for what we have? Here is a simple plan of action I like to use in my own pursuit of personal development:
Define your goals
- Spend some quiet time alone, with a hot cup of coffee, and really dream like you are a kid again. What do you want to do with this one precious life you have? Journal it out and see where your thoughts take you, this alone can be a very powerful exercise.
Set your priorities
- Defining your roles and goals is an idea straight from Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. As moms we wear many hats; in order to live a well-rounded and fulfilling life, we must look at each of the roles we play and plan out our priorities for each one. What are your priorities in life, and not what social media tells you that should be a priority?
Understand your strengths
- Don’t worry about what your neighbor or your sister is doing, find what you are good at and then stay in your own lane. The Strengths Finder book was a great resource for me in figuring out what my strengths are, remember these are usually things that come easily to you so it’s not always easy for us to see our own strengths. Don’t worry so much about what you are not good at doing, once you know where your own strengths lie embrace those and pursue them wholeheartedly.
- Read great books, develop new skills, or take on a new hobby. I know, I know, time is limited as a busy mom but the fact of the matter is that most people don’t pick up a good book once they are done with school. Leaders are readers and you are the leader of your home, download a book on your Kindle today (you can read it on your phone while you are hiding in your closet eating Oreos…not that I know anything about that!).
- We can’t do this on our own, it takes a village to raise a child, and it takes a supportive tribe to live an intentional life. Usually, our circles in life can become quite small (especially as we get older and if we choose to stay home with our babies). Find a great group online – Stacey’s Facebook group is a great one! It is a great community of like-minded women supporting each other as we go through life.
In conclusion, life is a journey and while it is good to have big picture goals of where we want to end up – it is also important to be happy with our everyday lives as well. Contentment doesn’t mean we can’t have dreams and goals to pursue in order to leave a legacy for our lives. Be happy with who you are, strive to be a better you, and always remember to enjoy the journey along the way.
You can connect with Sarah and learn more about discovering your best life over at www.discoveryourbestlife.net/creating-daily-habits-for-life