Self-Care and Beauty as a Work-From-Home Mom
By Bre Hamilton from www.brewritesbeauty.com
As moms, we hear about self-care all the time, almost everywhere we look. We hear and see people telling us that we need to take care of ourselves first, you can’t pour from an empty cup and how important me-time really is for your life.
But sometimes, as a mom (especially if you have younger kids) it can seem like it is maybe unrealistic. How can it really be that important for you to take care of yourself when you have a MILLION things to do just to survive and take care of your kids?
I want to share with you a little of my story and how I came to realize how important it was for me to add a little self-care into my life in order to be a happier, healthier mom around my kids.
It All Began With Eyebrows….
For me, it all started about a year or year and a half ago now when a friend was telling me how pretty I was …”but you’re too pretty to have bad eyebrows!
I’ve got to say, it wasn’t easy to hear someone say my eyebrows looked bad, especially as someone who often struggles with self-confidence as I think lots of women do. However, it was actually one of the best things to happen to me, because I started hitting YouTube hard. Back then, I wasn’t a makeup coach (or even close to it), but I wish there had been someone out there doing what I do now so I wouldn’t have had to figure my way out on my own using tutorial videos!
I watched a LOT of videos. I practiced on myself a LOT. I spent probably 20 minutes some days doing my brows. And once I started, I couldn’t help but realize how high my confidence level was when I went out with my brows looking nicer. Years of over-tweezing had led to my brows being plucked so far back so many times that they were just short little things. I needed someone to clean them up first and then I filled them in. Now, I am much more adept at just keeping them cleaned up and groomed myself.
But, once I started with my eyebrows, it grew into something MUCH bigger than just ‘looking good’ and it evolved into something much more than just makeup.
When Beauty Became Self-Care
When my youngest daughter (I have three) started school in the fall of 2016, life as I knew it really changed for me. In Canada, where we live, you start full-time school when you are 4 and school starts in September and runs until the end of June. Suddenly, I went from being mom all the time, to having to figure out what I really wanted to do! I was just starting as an independent contractor working from home…but I was discovering that makeup was quickly becoming self-care for me.
Some people like long walks. Some people enjoy reading, a bubble bath or a glass of wine. Those are all lovely things, and I do enjoy them all too, but when I was able to sit down sans kids and focus on me at my makeup table and just learn and play around….my confidence level shot through the roof and I felt like I had finally connected with something that was ME.
This quickly morphed into something that I decided to pursue as a business and you can read my whole story that I wrote about my journey beyond motherhood, but this was when I realized who I really was, who I was becoming, outside of motherhood…and it was truly amazing.
What Does This Mean for You
Self-care is important. I am not just saying this because ‘they’ say it and it’s the thing you should do as a mom. This isn’t a pie in the sky. I am a real mom too. I don’t always have time each day, or even each week, for self-care and I won’t begin to pretend otherwise. We all have real lives with busy schedules and kids we are raising.
But it is important. One way that I have found to make it actually happen each week is to just schedule it in. Seriously! Put a block in your schedule and just send your family away or go out yourself. For me, this could be getting out and shopping for some makeup sales at Sephora or the mall. Or it could mean that my husband takes the girls to the park for an hour. Or I do something while he is at work and the girls are at school or at a friend’s house playing. It isn’t ALWAYS putting makeup on anymore…that is where it started and when I realized what doing something for JUST ME really did for my emotional health. When I come back from that bout of self-care, I connect so well with my kids and my husband and I feel much more like myself than when I don’t do it and get stressed out and strung out….which eventually leads to overwhelm, tiredness and possibly even feeling sick.
For some of you, it might mean just getting everyone out of the house and taking that nap you never get to take. Or reading a book by the beach without having to watch your kids in the water. Or even planning a girls night out of the house while your partner watches the kids.
Don’t get hung up on the ‘what’, but definitely start thinking about how you can add this into your week and why it’s so important for you to do it!
I’d love to hear if this was helpful for you. Do you practice self-care currently, and if so, what does that look like for you? If not, what is your biggest struggle with scheduling it in or actually doing it?
About the Author
Bre Hamilton is a beauty lover. She has been a mother for a decade and has learned the importance of self-care and how beauty has fit into that in her own life. She wants to help other women feel valued and beautiful both on the outside and the inside.
As a business owner, she has seen how important it is to learn how to balance both aspects of her life well. She wants to help you kick the overwhelm with makeup by teaching you specific things in her coaching sessions and learn how to be productive and balance both the parenting and business aspects of life even in the busiest of seasons.
You can follow her over on Instagram, Pinterest and Facebook or go join her group for more makeup tips and help for getting on video in your business. For more content like this, go check out her website.